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Your Top Five People

March 10, 2016 By Talya Tate Boerner 13 Comments

the people we become

Have you ever stopped to think that your perception of everything is shaped at least in part by the company you keep? For a few moments, think about the five people you spend the most time with. Or seven people. Pick a number. Now consider this—you become the people you spend the most time with. 

I heard something similar months ago, and my brain latched on to it as one’s brain does. I think it’s a powerful concept, and to a large extent, I think it’s true.

Everyone is filled with a certain energy, whether positive or negative. The essence of those you spend time with becomes part of you. Slowly, so slowly you won’t notice at first, or maybe you never will. But how could such a thing not happen?

You may only pick up a mannerism or two. Or your mood changes after you’ve been with a certain person for an amount of time. You become happier. Or depressed. You begin to think like they do, maybe only in tiny pinprick ways, but it happens.

If you spend all your time in a stress-filled environment surrounded by negative people, the attitudes of the place will rub off on you. Surround yourself with upbeat, creative, positive people, and see if your overall perception of everything won’t be more positive.

AWBU ladies

Of course, life isn’t black and white, cut and dried, good or bad. Situations aren’t 100% negative or over-the-moon glorious. The truth rests somewhere in the middle, and we have to navigate through the constant life chatter filtering out what’s not healthy for us and clinging to the good.

I know I’m rambling.

Like a cancer, negativity breeds more negativity. I believe this is one reason our political climate is so ugly. We don’t have control of many things, but we do have control of how we spend our time, who we interact with, what we listen to, what we share to our people and beyond.

I’m not saying we don’t need critics and realism and truth, because we do. But there’s a way to disagree and stand up for what’s right without spreading hate. We need to be mindful of what we’re absorbing and what we’re putting back out into the world. Just in the way we are affected by the people we spend time with, we are influencing people, too.

You are included in someone’s list of five people. So am I. And with that comes responsibility.

Sermon over.

Grace Grits and Gardening
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Musical Pairing:
Electric Light Orchestra, Don’t Bring Me Down

Filed Under: Life Tagged With: choices, friendship, life choices, negativity, politics, positive relationships

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Comments

  1. June Graham says

    March 10, 2016 at 9:10 am

    So true!! That’s why I like to be around your mom. She’s always so uplifting!!!!!

    Reply
    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      March 10, 2016 at 12:25 pm

      Oh thank you Mrs. June. I know she feels the same about you.

      Reply
  2. Colene says

    March 10, 2016 at 9:15 am

    Well said!

    Reply
  3. Donna says

    March 10, 2016 at 9:18 am

    This is so good! I’m like Mrs. Graham, that’s why I love being around the Tate girls. 🙂 Also, love your music pairing…one of my all-time favorites!

    Reply
    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      March 10, 2016 at 12:24 pm

      Awww.

      Reply
  4. Lyn Fenwick says

    March 10, 2016 at 9:35 am

    I agree with you! Unfortunately, some of my favorite people live far away. Does it count if you are spending a lot of time with fictional and historical favorite people?!!!

    Reply
    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      March 10, 2016 at 12:24 pm

      I think so, Lyn! Fictional people may be some of our best influences:)

      Reply
  5. Linda Beason says

    March 10, 2016 at 9:42 am

    Oh my ! So true ! One of my group ! Is my brother , Bud . I can be down (slightly) and get a phone call and I will be laughing !! That is what people need . Positive , happy people , Jesus loving people , in their lives !!

    Reply
    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      March 10, 2016 at 12:24 pm

      Bud is the best! I can just think of him and laugh:)

      Reply
  6. Barbara Tate says

    March 10, 2016 at 10:59 am

    I agree with this. I really think we have to filter out what is not healthy or good for us. Be around happy people. Thanks, June Graham. I think you are one of the happy ones.

    Reply
  7. Dorothy Johnson says

    March 11, 2016 at 9:20 am

    Good message. I wish people would remember that we don’t need to say everything that comes into our heads. Life’s too short to hang around rude, negative folks.

    Reply
  8. Lynn Rogers says

    March 11, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    Loved ELO! Went to one of their concerts back in the day.

    Reply
  9. Email Spike .zip says

    March 25, 2016 at 2:29 am

    This means that there’s now a de facto Service Degree Agreement between thee
    IT Department and the enterprise.

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