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How Writing is like Cabbage

October 24, 2014 By Talya Tate Boerner

Sometimes writing is like cabbage. Yes, cabbage. I’m about to explain the odd connection, and how two seemingly unrelated things can be so alike.

how writing is like cabbage

1) Some people love cabbage. Some people don’t. Maybe they want to like it because of the health benefits, but will eat cabbage only if they are super hungry. When they do try it, they sorta like it, but cabbage will never be their go-to dish. Even my cabbage, the dish I know is delicious, is just not their thing. They prefer something completely different. Same goes for my writing. Everyone will not like my writing every day. And that’s okay.

2.) Some days I don’t even like cabbage. Some days it stinks up the whole house. No matter how much time I spend or how much care I take adding the right combination of spices and flavors, the dish simply doesn’t taste right even to me, a lover of vegetables, a lover of cabbage. This typically happens on a recipe I felt certain would be primo. These dishes keep me honest and grounded and serve as a reminder that sometimes my cooking isn’t all that good. Failure happens. Sometimes my writing isn’t all that good either. Writing takes practice, just like cooking, like anything worth doing. Writing and cooking are both unpredictable endeavors.

3.) Other days I quickly chop the head of cabbage, toss it in the oven with a drizzle of olive oil and a sprinkle of cayenne pepper and it turns out perfectly, invoking the smells of Momma’s kitchen and a simpler time. The cabbage sings. Everyone clamors for it, even though it was an afterthought. When this happens with a piece of writing, people relate, feel what I feel, engage with me. 

Certain stories hit the mark. I can’t predict or plot or  write to the occasion. My best plan is keeping it simple and being myself.

See this cabbage picture?

how cabbage is like writing and my favorite cabbage recipe

 

This picture surprisingly hit the mark when I posted it on my Grace Grits and Gardening Facebook page less twelve days ago. As of today, the photo has reached an audience of 40,400 people and received 2.2K likes, comments and shares. Who would have thunk it?

Apparently people relate to cabbage? And sometimes, when I’m really lucky, my writing.

Roasted Cabbage Steak Recipe

Thinly slice a head of cabbage.

Drizzle with olive oil.

Sprinkle cayenne, sea salt and pepper.

Roast @400 degrees for 15 minutes of so.

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MIke and Molly

Instead of a musical pairing, here’s an excerpt from the sitcom Mike & Molly. If you don’t watch this show, you are missing hilarious, old-fashioned entertainment. In Season 4, Molly decides to leave her thirty year teaching job to write a book…(I can relate.)

What Molly Hath Wrought

(Late at night, Molly sits at the kitchen table reviewing her manuscript.)

Molly: Oh, God. (Sighs) Oh, God, why did I think I could write a book? Ooh! This is bad. Ooh, this is really bad. Oh. Ooh, that sucks. (Turning page of manuscript.) That sucks. (Turning next page.) Oh it still sucks. (Next page.) Still sucks! You know what? (Marking out sections with great fanfare.) I’ll do that and that. Yeah! Yeah!
Mike: What are you doing up so late?
Molly: I’m working on my book. (She sets it on fire.)
Mike: Okay. I take it you’re not happy with it.
Molly: Is that why you’re a cop? ‘Cause nothing fools you. Ooh.
Mike: Can’t be that bad.
Molly: It’s horrible, and I did everything, exactly what the guy told me to do in the How to Write Your Book book.

 

and there was this one time I went to a blogger conference…

September 29, 2014 By Talya Tate Boerner

Why you should attend a blogger conferenceI recently attended my second Arkansas Women Blogger conference (AWBU). As soon as I unloaded all the swag from my car (more on this later), I flopped on the bed and began to think about all the things I had learned, the items I want to follow up on, the magic of the weekend. Really, it was a magical blogger weekend. I jumped in, held on, absorbed as much as possible, hoped I took enough pictures and notes to remember everything later, then returned back to real life while everything percolated.

And ideas do percolate.

There are ideas still swimming around in my brain from last year’s conference.

After spilling thoughts onto my journal for later reference, I came away with these top five reasons to attend a blogger conference. (These reasons apply not only to bloggers but any profession, any interest, every person.)

  1. Get out of your comfort zone! This is a big one for me. I’m an introvert. I prefer quiet. A group of bloggers is NOT quiet. Attending last year’s conference was a big step for me. Returning a second year and agreeing to speak on a panel about writing was huge. If you stop and think about it, the things we truly want probably are outside our comfort zone, otherwise we’d already have them.
  2. Educate yourself. Technology constantly changes. While I write this, new widgets are being designed and introduced. There is much to learn in any field and people ready and excited to teach. You’ll be surprised to realize you have things to share too. If you don’t learn and evolve, your skills will quickly become stale and irrelevant. You may become irrelevant…
  3. Become inspired. Life will thumb its nose. You’ll second guess yourself. Why the heck would anyone want to read anything I have to write? You’ll run out of ideas. Your ideas will become same ole, same ole. Conferences will motive you, remind you of the reasons you love writing (or whatever your skill, hobby, business, etc.). You will leave excited to do your job better.
  4. Make connections. Writing is solitary. Sitting behind a computer all day, talking only to yourself and your pet can make a person crazy. Know what I mean? Meeting other people who can talk non-stop for an entire weekend about a mutual passion is beneficial. You will make friends and have people to bounce ideas off. Your world will expand.

Reason Number 4 for attending a blogger conference - Make Connections!5. The swag and food! This is certainly not a reason to blog, but a definite bonus for being an Arkansas Women Blogger. AWBU has supportive sponsors including Riceland, Arkansas Farm Bureau, Great Day Farms, Alliance Rubber Products, Visit Rogers, Petit Jean Meats, Acorn, Arkansas Grown, WetNap and Kendal King Group. Just look at the goodies I hauled home. And this wasn’t all of it.

AWBU Swag!

 

There is guaranteed yummy food where food bloggers gather.

There is guaranteed yummy food where food bloggers gather.

Is there a conference or event you are considering? Sign up. Just do it. Something good will come from it, I promise.

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Farm. Food. Garden. Life.

 

 

Are you a list maker?

September 2, 2014 By Talya Tate Boerner

I’ve always been a list maker.

When I was a kid, I kept a list of all the books I owned, books I had read, and books I planned to read on a piece of notebook paper in the front of my binder. In alphabetical order, of course, which meant I was always rewriting it. I think in a way, this list making routine was a form of collecting for me. Collecting the names of books.

Maybe I should have been a librarian?

Even today, I have a strong urge to buy an old wooden card catalog case. It would make a nice place to store seeds packets. Or a catalog of book names, not that I have one anymore.

card catalog for seed packet storage?

Really, I don’t.

But I do have To-Do lists.

Since we started this process of moving from Texas to Arkansas, I start a new list every morning, adding and marking off as I go throughout the day. I admit sometimes I add things I know I will 100% do, just to have something to mark off. Like the dentist. Last week when I had a dentist appointment, I added “go to the dentist” to the list so I would absolutely have something to mark off that night.

The whole marking something off is satisfying.

Each morning I rewrite the list, including those things I didn’t accomplish plus new items. There are always new items. I’m not sure what any of this says about me, but I do stay organized.

Are you a list maker?

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Hi! I'm Talya Tate Boerner. Writer, Reader, Arkansas Master Naturalist / Master Gardener, Author of:

THE ACCIDENTAL SALVATION OF GRACIE LEE (2016)

GENE, EVERYWHERE: a life-changing visit from my father-in-law (2020)

BERNICE RUNS AWAY (2022)

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