For Father’s Day…lessons from Daddy.
But first. How cute is this picture of Momma and Daddy? They are newly marriedโlook at the sparkle on his wedding band. He’s making homemade ice cream, probably vanilla, and she’s wearing an adorable dress, with perfect lipstick and eyebrows! Love it.
Now, lessons from Daddy… (not in order of importance or anything brilliant like that)
- If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right. Daddy taught me the importance of a strongย work ethic. He taught meย to work for what I get. To work when I don’t feel like it. To get ‘erย done.
- To appreciateย nature and growing things. To listen to the earth, watch the clouds, wait for rain, rotate crops, pull weeds, smell cotton.
- To rock cowboyย boots and ripped jeans and to lovelovelove country music. Daddyย rigged an 8-track stereo in the boat so we could sing along on the lake. We went to sleepย and woke up withย Waylon, Willie, and the boys. I circled Luckenbach, Texasย on the map. I should write song lyrics.
- To add snark to my life. Momma put the funny in humor. Daddy added the dry part.
- About money and savings and living within my means even if it means w-a-i-t-i-n-g to buy something. Period.
- To take the back roads, the gravel roads, the dirt roads, the turnrows. To make my own roads.
- To be practical and realistic and ifย it sounds too good to be true, it usually is.
- To shoot a decent game of pool. To put a spin on a ping pong ball if I hold the paddle just right.ย To pick horses at Oaklawn,ย or at least have a big time whileย doing it.
- That nothing runs like a Deere, and that green goes with everything.
- To treat people fairly and to lend a hand.
- It’s okay to grumble about paying taxes, but don’t be too upset. It means you made some money that year.
- To eat Goo Goo Clusters, and barbecue ribs smoked all night long, and jalapeรฑo peppers with everything. To drink cold beer on a hot day. Burnt popcorn never hurt anyone.
- To pull to the side of the road when a crazy person wants to speed by. Andย there are lotsย of crazy people out there.
- To not waste words.
- When warranted, to fight and speak up.
If I could see him today, I’d tell him all these things that I’ve only just begun to understand.
Happy Father’s Day to all you dads out there.
[tweetthis]Lessons from my Daddy may not be typical but they brought me here #HappyFathersDay! @JohnDeere @GooGooClusters [/tweetthis]
Grace Grits and Gardening
Farm. Food. Garden. Life.
P.S. Happy Juneteenth, too!
Musical Pairing:
Waylon Jennings – Luckenbach, Texas
Pam says
Thanks for reminding me of the big and little things my dad taught me. I love the picture of your parents. We used to churn homemade ice cream (usually vanilla); my job was to sit on top of the container to keep it steady while Daddy cranked.
Your blog makes me smile and sometimes shed a tear.
Talya Tate Boerner says
Thank you, Pam. And thanks for sharing your memories too.
Scott says
You always have the best words about farming, farm life, the delta and family. Northeast Arkansas is lucky to have someone of your talents sharing and depicting our lifestyles and culture. I’m sure your dad would be very proud.
Talya Tate Boerner says
Thank you, Scott. NEArk is definitely a unique place and I’m thankful to be from there. As far as my Dad being proud of me… he probably would be, but he wouldn’t say it, of course. LOL.
Ashley Pruett Nilssen says
Love, love, love this post! So, so sweet! ๐ <3
Talya Tate Boerner says
Thank you, Ashley! Nice to hear from you.
Dorothy Johnson says
Such a sweet post–and picture of your folks. They made a cute couple, as we used to say. He taught you many good things. Love that picture of you on the John Deere.
Talya Tate Boerner says
Thanks Dorothy!
Sophie says
Haha, yeah those strike really close to the heart. Just add DeWalt as the choice for tools and substitute country for rock and that’s daddy alright.
Vickie says
Best I have ever read. Wonderful wise words. Thanks for sharing.
Talya Tate Boerner says
Thank you Vickie. I appreciate it!
creecy33arbara Tate says
This is one of my favorite blogs. Yes, he is proud and so am I. Thomas taught us lots. I loved my daddy dearly and he taught me lots of great things about life. HAPPY DADDY’S DAY!!
Talya Tate Boerner says
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Cindy Lu says
Yes, your daddy would tell you he’s proud! Beautiful and poignant and straight from the heart and soul. Perfectly priceless!
Talya Tate Boerner says
Thank you, Cindy Lu! xo
Jilli Rose says
I really love this post. I just one to say one word that is one father is more than a hundred school teachers.
Alivia Winget says
A dad is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again.