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Beauty in the Decay

August 21, 2025 By Talya Tate Boerner

I’ve been thinking about beauty in the decay and decided to jot down my thoughts and share them with you. This is the time of year some flowers begin looking sad, all shriveled up and tired to the roots. Certain perennial varieties, like blooding heart, die back altogether. This is all part of the process. And it isn’t a bad thing.

Beauty in the decay.

But What About My Coneflowers??!

I’ve recently noticed so many panicked social media posts specifically about coneflowers. Folks are worried their coneflowers have succumbed to a disease or fallen prey to an insect. Sure, they no longer look June-vibrant, but rest assured they are right on track for the way they should look at the tail-end of summer. A bit tired. Droopy like wilted romaine. Sunburned even.

The important thing to know is that these end of summer flowers are still benefiting nature in an essential way. In fact, coneflowers are in full wildlife support mode during August and September.

Just ask the goldfinches! They’ll tell you coneflower seeds are their favorite food.

If there was ever a reason to NOT cut back your coneflowers, these little guys are it. 💛💛💛

With Respect to Decay…

Something I’ve learned over the past few years—if a yard looks pristine with golf course grass and perfect shrubs and flowers, that yard is likely providing very little (possibly zero) benefit to nature. Native plants provide beauty in the decay because they are a food source for caterpillars, birds, and other pollinators.

It’s a very good thing when plants don’t always look picture-perfect.

Our spicebush provides the perfect example.

See how the leaves are rolled and chewed on? That happens as the spicebush caterpillar feeds on the leaves. Spicebush caterpillars become spicebush swallowtails, and the world absolutely needs more of these beautiful creatures!

Tiny larva:

spicebush caterpillar

Growing bigger:

spicebush swallowtail caterpillar

Almost full grown and ready to pupate:

spicebush swallowtail caterpillar - just before pupating

Voila!

spicebush swallowtail

And then there’s the matter of us humans…

You know this whole idea of “beauty in the decay” applies to us too.

We often forget what a privilege it is to age. When the body starts to ache and crumble, when life starts to feel a bit slippery—I believe this is when we really start to notice the daily, beautiful miracles around us. And that is a wonderful thing.

Grace Grits and Gardening
Farm. Food. Garden. Life.

Filed Under: Gardening, Nature & Seasons Tagged With: coneflowers, late summer, miracle of nature

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Comments

  1. Jaime Haney says

    August 21, 2025 at 8:18 pm

    This is such an important post, full of good information. The end of your post is beautiful. My southwestern Indiana garden, while still green, is looking its age. But all the birds, butterflies, insects and hummingbirds are happy and that makes me happy.

    So glad to have found you on Facebook.

    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      August 24, 2025 at 7:26 am

      We returned from a week away and our garden was filled with butterflies! It’s such a great time of year. (I’m glad you found me too!)

  2. Annette Pettit says

    August 22, 2025 at 7:54 am

    What a beautiful tribute to awaken to.Thanks.

    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      August 24, 2025 at 7:24 am

      Thanks!

  3. Landy Westphal says

    August 22, 2025 at 8:53 am

    Thank you for the reminder that it is a privilege to age and for sharing the beautiful song!

    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      August 24, 2025 at 7:24 am

      So glad you enjoyed the music!

  4. Dorothy Johnson says

    August 22, 2025 at 9:01 am

    My coneflowers are looking pretty sad, but I have reminded myself to let them be for the very reasons you shared. The older I get, the more aware I am of that cycle of life. Love your pictures!

    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      August 24, 2025 at 7:24 am

      Me too, Dorothy!

  5. Nikki Gunn says

    August 22, 2025 at 9:30 am

    Well said! What a wonderful world. God is good.

    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      August 24, 2025 at 7:24 am

      Thanks!

  6. Colene says

    August 23, 2025 at 9:18 am

    I received some coneflower seeds from a friend yesterday. Perfect weather today to spread them in the ground. I love watching the birds and butterflies munching on my zinnias. My yard is far from pristine and I like it that way. My husband used to say, “The nicer your lawn, the lower your IQ.” Haha A very enjoyable read this morning!

    • Talya Tate Boerner says

      August 24, 2025 at 7:23 am

      I bet you are having wonderful weather! I agree with Tom’s assessment. I know you must miss him terribly.

  7. Angelia Garner says

    September 14, 2025 at 9:58 am

    Love your post! I too have been worried about when or if I should cut back my lazy Susan’s and Coneflowers. But I’ve refrained so the birds and caterpillars can enjoy. Yesterday I found joy in just watching all the butterflies flying in a cluster of play. I’m not sure what kind I need to better research and gain knowledge. The hummingbirds are amazing in my backyard right now. I think I would enjoy the wheel journaling. The music at the end of this post is refreshing. Thank you!


Hi! I'm Talya Tate Boerner. Writer, Reader, Arkansas Master Naturalist / Master Gardener, Author of

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