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same moon

August 30, 2012 By Talya Tate Boerner

Last night, sleep was difficult. The wild sounds of nature filled our little cottage. Not sure what exactly – tree frogs, crickets, birds, owls, werewolves…. With only a flimsy screen door separating me from unseen critters, I pretended to be camping, in style…

I imagine the sounds to be those of the late night zoo. Or the deep jungle plus exuberant schnauzers minus howler monkeys.
No air conditioner noise, no traffic, no sirens or airplanes, no sounds of Dallas. Only nature. The twinkle of stars. The rustle of leaves turning.
Lucy and Annabelle were wide-eyed and excited. In and out, in and out. Up and down off the bed.
The moon, almost full, cast shadows to go with the sounds. A grain moon or sturgeon moon according to Farmer’s Almanac. Stirring the dirt and crops, rousing the nocturnal creatures a bit more? The trees were luminous.
I thought of family and friends. Each resting under a different roof. Across the country or across town, but under the same sky. Same moon.
talya

Musical Pairing:

Somewhere Out There, Linda Ronstadt & James Ingram

It suddenly struck me, that tiny pea, pretty and blue, was the Earth. I put up my thumb and shut one eye, and my thumb blotted out the planet Earth. I didn’t feel like a giant. I felt very, very small. – Neil Armstrong

Arkansas Girl

August 29, 2012 By Talya Tate Boerner

Home
I don’t know no town,
like the old town
Even when the miles are many,
I feel like I’m still around….

The road I travel always brings me home. To the history inside me. Just a girl from Arkansas.

Where people are not perfect, but real. These people who shaped me and call me one of their own. We speak as if in mid-conversation, even though it’s been years.

These do-anything-for you-no-matter-what people.

The junior high sits empty but the memories remain. Takes me back to those autumn nights. Hometown bleachers packed real tight…

The town seems small, the trees huge, grown up around the stories imprinted on our hearts. Memories of first grade, first kiss, first everything. 
The place I’m reminded of what’s important and good, unnoticed at the time, lost and forgotten by the wider world.

Brinkley Chapel

Those who never left may not understand. Or maybe they knew all along.

I breathe it in, hold it inside and take it with me.

I usually take one last pass through town
Stop the car and touch the ground….
Somethin’ fore I go.

Turning Home – David Nail

In memory everything seems to happen to music.~ Tennessee Williams

Mars+Venus

August 28, 2012 By Talya Tate Boerner

Can men and women just be friends? I say yes. 


But, it seems that if a woman even glances at a man, he takes this as a sign. A sign of something more to come. AmIRight? 

My friend and her husband went through the Starbuck’s drive-thru for coffee with their toddler in the backseat. She drove and placed the order, he sat in the passenger side. The young barista took the money, passed the drinks through the window, two minute transaction, that was it. As they drove off he declared all peacockish, “She was soooooo hitting on me!” 

Oh really? I wonder if the barista realized this. 
No words were exchanged. Maybe she was just doing her job? Smiling at the customers and making eye contact… Being friendly instead of grunting… Or, was the Starbucks chick truly sending him a vipe?  A bit of extra foam with his no whip macchiato? A little something-something for this clearly married man?

From the drive-thru window, I doubt she even saw him.

Harry: Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally:That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don’t. 
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don’t.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry:  No. You pretty much want to nail ’em too. 

Boerner men

My 91-year-old father-in-law is whole-heartedly convinced that every lady who crosses his path has her eye on him. With a twinkle in his eye and a rascally grin, he speaks of this each time we see him. The nurse who checks his blood levels, the checker at Super Walmart, the girls who clean the apartment, every female with a pulse.

He LOVES to re-tell the story of the caregiver we hired a while back. “That woman tried to get me on the divan!” Divan? Who is he, Sir Lawrence Olivier? 

His wife of 60+ years just smiles and looks at me knowingly. We shake our heads imperceptibly and share this MenAreCrazy bond. 

Is this a Mars/Venus thing?

talya

You’re So Vain – Carly Simon

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then. 
– Katherine Hepburn

You know how a woman gets a man excited? She shows up. That’s it. We’re guys, we’re easy. 
– Harrison Ford in Six Days, Seven Nights

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Hi! I'm Talya Tate Boerner. Writer, Reader, Arkansas Master Naturalist / Master Gardener, Author of

THE ACCIDENTAL SALVATION OF GRACIE LEE (2016)

GENE, EVERYWHERE: a life-changing visit from my father-in-law (2020)

BERNICE RUNS AWAY (2022)

THE THIRD ACT OF THEO GRUENE (coming 2025)

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